Moving Away From Home (The State) Is A Healthy Part of Growing Up

One of the greatest concerns of people who are critical of the state, yet unwilling to imagine life without it, is that humanity would self-destruct if the state was to go away. While it is true that there would be a transitional phase that would be awkward and fraught with uncertainties and danger, that is not necessarily a bad thing, nor would it be the end of the world. In fact, we all face a similar predicament in our lives when we leave behind the familiar structures and discipline of our parents homes.

The fact is, most people not only survive this transition despite all of its perils, they also learn a great deal about themselves and the world in the process. That period of uncertainty and danger is an accelerated course in becoming independent. And it is that independence that defines us and our freedoms. And just like this period, the initial phase of statelessness would allow individuals to redefine themselves and their freedoms. Which would create stronger individuals, more capable of not just being productive for themselves, but for humanity.

Yes, there will be rough spots. Just as teenagers going out on their own often create turbulence, so will humanity. And that turbulence will likely result in some bad choices and tragedies. But without the chance to fail, success is meaningless. How we will adapt and evolve and learn from our failures is far more important than protecting ourselves from them and becoming dormant, stagnant beings.

If safety and certainty and mere survival are our only goals, then our lives are meaningless. If we accept a cage that promises to keep us safe we can never be fully realized independent individuals. Even if we were to accept a fallacious ideology that the state was necessary for our upbringing and to guide us through our development, we would still need to realize that the arrangement would have to end in order for it to have had any purpose. If your parents only raised you to be an adult so that they could keep you in a suspended state of dependence, then your life would only have purpose for them, not for you. We are not here for the purpose of appeasing the state. If it cannot let go, then we must leave on our own accord, lest we are robbed of any meaning or purpose of our own.

The state is not an objective absolute. It is not a necessity. It is just an abstract idea. It is only real in thought, like a unicorn. But unlike unicorns, the horn of the state is real and is used to keep us bound to it. Yet it is only real for as long as we believe in it. It exists by way of our consent and belief in it. If we were to remove those, it would fall apart on its own. It cannot function without our willingness. Just as, as adults, our parents only control over us is that which we forfeit to them. And those who forfeit their independence, freedom and liberty in exchange for a safety net shall eventually find that they have none of the above. This is especially true when your parents/the state are abusive control freaks.

“We’re special in other ways. Ways our mothers appreciate. That net does not make meĀ feel safe. All those holes make me nervous.” –Built to Spill ‘Kicked It In the Sun’

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